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What are Core Beliefs?

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What are Core Beliefs?

By: Beau Young, MA. LLPC

 

            Core beliefs are our most central beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world around us. These beliefs are formed through our first experiences throughout childhood, but can sometimes be formed in adulthood through traumatic events. Each person has a different combination of both positive and negative core beliefs.

            For example, if one is bullied for their intelligence level throughout their childhood, they may eventually internalize this message and begin to believe that they must be dumb. Alternatively, if a child is given positive reinforcement on a consistent basis, they may believe they are perfectly capable and smart when giving their best effort. Either way, these beliefs impact many areas of life as we get older and have more diverse experiences.

 

            These beliefs inform how we think, feel, and act in various situations and can contribute to both positive and negative thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Negative beliefs tend to have more negative consequences on our lives as one enters adulthood and it is important to identify these so that they can be unlearned or reshaped into more positive beliefs, as well as to lessen the negative impacts they can have. More often than not, any negative core beliefs we may have about ourselves tend to subconsciously drive our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. However, when in a heightened state, may come out to show themselves in the form of negative self-talk. This negative self-talk can have a number of negative consequences associated with it.

 

            Some internal negative consequences of negative core beliefs are the following: low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, substance use, and difficulty handling stress. When these consequences go unchecked within ourselves, they can begin to impact the relationships we have with others. Some common negative consequences of negative core beliefs that impact relationships include: putting others’ needs ahead of our own, difficulty trusting others, being overly aggressive OR overly passive during conflicts, and feelings of inadequacy in relationships.

 

            CBT therapy works through cognitive challenging and cognitive reframing to reshape these beliefs into more positive ones, in order to lessen the negative impacts on personal mental health and relationships with others. Therapists who utilize these CBT techniques can assist clients in overcoming negative core beliefs, which can lead to improvements in mental health across the board. Below, you can look over a few examples of negative core beliefs to help you determine whether it may be time to find a CBT therapist who can help work with you to reframe these negative beliefs into that of a more positive set of beliefs.

 

            CBT therapists may implement techniques such as cognitive reframing to help clients shift their negative self-speak into that of more positive self-speak. This negative self-speak often occurs without the client realizing that it’s happening. A trained ear can help point out when this is happening so that a client’s awareness of this behavior grows and they can begin to check themselves on it outside of session. An example of this may be if a client is explaining a recent experience of conflict with a friend in which they state, “I’m so stupid, I am such a bad friend”. The therapist may point this out to the client as an unhelpful line of thinking, before then reframing this on their own by asking “What can you learn from this experience?” or they may reframe by helping the client to rephrase this thinking error with, “Managing conflicts is challenging and everyone makes mistakes”.

If you relate to any of the following examples, BMT’s providers are here to help!

EXAMPLES:

  • “I am weak”
  • “I am a loser”
  • “I am unlovable”
  • “I am worthless”
  • “People cannot be trusted”
  • “My world is an unsafe and dangerous place”
  • “I am a victim of circumstances”

 

    

Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS)

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Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS)

 

            There are many different types of treatment modalities in the mental health realm which aim to understand individuals, the origins of their symptoms, and to increase self-awareness while breaking maladaptive behaviors.

 

            One of those modalities is Internal Family Systems (IFS) which was developed by Richard Schwartz, Ph.D., LMFT. The premise of the approach is that the human psyche is not monolithic but instead composed of various parts and a Self. The theory operations under the notion that all parts have a designated function to protect and they are all good. The Self is the essential core which is a compassionate presence and carries the ability to be an active leader if it is in control.

 

            Internal Family Systems therapy focuses on two primary parts of a person, their vulnerable parts (aka their Exiles) and their protective parts.

 

           Vulnerable parts are frozen in times of painful emotional states which develop negative beliefs about themselves. Exiles are younger and of varying ages.

 

Protective parts have a primary job to protect the vulnerable parts from being activated in the present day and to protect us from being flood by the pain and negative emotions that the vulnerable parts carry. Protective parts are often the age we were when they first had to take on their roles.

 

The origins of an Exile is traced back to a wounding experience which causes them to be stuck in the past. When a wounding experience happened in the past the psyche “exiled” or locked away the painful part in order to reestablish homeostasis. This keeps the individual from feeling too overwhelmed or paralyzed by pain in order to keep functioning day to day. The painful emotional state and the negative beliefs internalized by the Exile is called a burden. They are often desperate in their attempts to be acknowledged and cared for. IFS aims to bring Exiles out of the past and into the present where their burdens can be properly released and their essential qualities can be reinstated.

 

If an Exile is activated in the present day, the Protective parts assume roles which are more extreme than their true nature in order regain balance. Even though some of the methods that the Protective parts take on can have harmful impacts, their intentions are always good. There are two types of Protective parts, Managers and Firefighters.

 

Managers work proactively by doing whatever they can in order to keep the exiled parts under control. Managers are future orientated. They are focused on planning, controlling, and achieving in order to keep things in check. They can be people pleasers, critical, and rigid. People who have more extreme Manager tactics often are more immersed in the intense effects of the Exiles.

 

Firefighters work reactively by jumping in to lock away exiled parts that appear in the present day. Firefighters are present orientated and are not focused on consequences of their actions. They are more impulsive, compulsive, and have addictive behaviors. They utilize dissociation in order to distract, comfort or numb out until the Exile part is locked back up. Once that is accomplished the balance is restored.

 

There is often conflict between Managers and Firefighters because the two protective parts have conflicting points of view. For example: a person struggling with disordered eating may have a Manager who tells the person that they are worthless and disgusting in order to stop overeating so the person is more accepted in society. Managers will make efforts to “eat clean”, restrict, and over exercise. With time they become tired of their rigid behaviors and slip up which triggers the Firefighter to step in. The Firefighter will engage in a binge episode to “put out the fire” which initially feels good and relieving. But as soon as the binge eating episode is over, the Exile resurfaces with feelings of shame and guilt from the past.  

 

            Everyone possesses a Self who is the optimal leader because it possesses the 8 C’s (calmness, curiosity, compassion, confidence, courage, clarity, connectedness and creativity). The Self becomes covered up by the various parts, the Managers, and Firefighters. IFS works towards healing the relationship between the parts and the Self and unburdening the Exiles. Therefore, the goal of IFS therapy is to bring the internal system into balance, with parts that are consistent with their true nature, and the Self as the leader.

 

In treatment, this looks like the therapist guiding the individual to understand each part. This is achieved by the 6 F’s:

Finding a particular part and identifying the physical sensation that it stirs up in the body.

Focusing on the part.

Fleshing it out by noticing it’s age, emotions, appearance, etc.

Feelings that come up by the individual towards the part.

beFriending the part by utilizing self-compassion.

Fears that the part has if they don’t do their job.

 

           It takes time and effort for trust to build with each part. After working with the Protective parts, an individual is granted access to the Exile. Approaching the Exile with curiosity, listening to their story, and witnessing their pain in a way that was not acknowledged when they originally experienced the painful wounding experience is key. After each part is seen, heard, acknowledged, and valued by the Self it is able to become unburdened and properly connected.

 

           Internal Family Systems is different from other modalities of treatment because it focuses on the experiences individuals go through instead of pathologizing them. IFS acknowledges self-harm, substance use, and promiscuous behaviors as parts trying to protect the individual. Therefore, the goal isn’t to just manage symptoms with medications and interventions but to focus on the “root” of the individuals experience to heal them. IFS incorporates components spirituality and belief that individuals have the capacity to heal.

 

 

Citation and Resources:

 

Schwartz, R. C. (2021). No bad parts: healing trauma & restoring wholeness with the internal family systems model . Sounds True.

An Introductory Guide to Grounding Techniques

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An Introductory Guide to Grounding Techniques

By: Beau Young, MA. LLPC

 

What are Grounding Techniques?

Grounding techniques are a tool that can be utilized in a variety of situations to help individuals calm down their bodies and quiet negative thoughts when experiencing strong emotions such as anxiety, anger, or states such as dissociation. Each of these emotions can cause overwhelming physical reactions that can be distressing to the individual experiencing them. For example, during a bout of anxiety, one may experience any combination of the following: racing thoughts, rapid heartbeat, shallow breathing, nausea, or shakiness. Grounding techniques can be used in times of stress to help minimize the negative effects of these physical symptoms.

The name of this type of technique is a straightforward, mostly literal depiction of the goal of using these techniques, i.e. to feel grounded, connected to the Earth, the here and now. The goal of these techniques is to bring you back down to the present moment, rather than circling around aimlessly amidst a barrage of negative thoughts/sensations in the body. These techniques can help an individual manage the effects of many disorders including depression, PTSD and other trauma, and anxiety. The goal of grounding is to find peace within the body.

Why are Grounding Techniques useful/effective?

The main reason why grounding techniques have been found to be so effective in soothing oneself is due to the fact that it helps to calm the central nervous system. The central nervous system regulates our breathing, heartbeat, and other involuntary body functions. You can think of grounding techniques as a way to cheat the code of our brains, debugging the computing misfires which result in the aforementioned negative sensations throughout the body.

How to Use the 54321 Grounding Technique

The 54321 Grounding Technique is a popular tool for grounding oneself in a variety of settings. The adaptability of this technique is the main reason why I teach it to many of my clients at one of their early sessions in treatment, to give these clients a tool that can be utilized and easily modified to fit the time and setting of use. Ideally, this exercise should take you approximately 5 minutes to complete, in order to give your body enough time to regulate itself and feel the full benefits.

To start, look around the environment that you are currently in and begin to identify 5 things that you can see. Once you have chosen which 5 items to focus on, begin to hone in on them with as much detail as possible. This will help you to remain focused on the task at hand, rather than the triggering event that may have led you to use this technique. Something I find helpful in teaching clients this technique is to visualize themself as an ant walking around on each object. This perspective shift will help you notice the details of each object more clearly. For example, a coffee table… You may notice the grain of the wood, how weathered the furniture is, and its size in relation to the room it is in. 

Once you have completed the sight portion, move on to identifying 4 things that you can touch. An easy example of this would be clothing. How does it feel on your skin? Is it tight, loose, soft, or warm? Is there a piece of clothing that feels more comfortable than another? Take time to notice any sensation you are experiencing from your clothing. Alternatively, touching soft blankets/stuffies, using fidget items, or noticing the ground beneath your feet are helpful in
maximizing the benefit from this exercise.

After touch comes hearing. Try to notice what types of sounds you hear around you. Is there ambient noise such as fans, tv, or cars in the distance? If you are a music lover, it can be very helpful to try putting on a song that brings you joy – then focus on isolating the various sounds in the song such as the instruments being played, the harmonies, and the piece as a whole. If there are no sounds are happening around you, notice the silence.

Next, identify two things you can smell. This one can be more interesting if you are at home, where you can choose pleasant scents of your liking such as perfumes/colognes, candles, or even deodorant. A majority of these items have combined scents, named ambiguous titles such as “fall breeze” or “ocean spray”. Try to isolate the different notes throughout the scent, you may notice citrus, floral, spicy, or musky notes to each item as you breathe in. 

Finally, move on to one thing you can taste. If you are prone to experiencing strong emotions that might lead you to utilize this skill often, it can be helpful to carry with you a pack of gum, candy, or other small food item you can easily pop into your mouth when attempting to ground yourself. Similarly to scent, try to isolate the various flavors in the item you have chosen to eat for this exercise. You can also pay attention to texture, temperature, and any other noteworthy elements of the experience.

Once you have completed each step, you will hopefully have given your body enough time to reset your central nervous system, calming your heart rate and breathing as you focus on observing the environment you are currently in.

 

    

Impacts of Plants on Mental Wellness

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Impacts of Plants on Mental Wellness

by Anna Melkumyan

 

If you’ve visited Blooming Minds Therapy, you’ve probably noticed several hundred plants scattered around our practice. We house a variety of foliage plants in each space not only for aesthetic value but to promote the positive impacts of plants (and plant care) on mental wellness. I often utilize plant metaphors when treating my clients because there is a high correlation between the needs of plants and those of humans.

In 2020, Blooming Minds Therapy underwent a major expansion of its practice and the construction of its space, during the height of pandemic. During this time, I was also navigating a lot of changes in my personal life which contributed to an increase of my own depression and anxiety symptoms. With so much uncertainty in the world and the pressure to keep moving forward I quickly realized that my previous coping skills needed some upgrading.

Plants became my outlet because they allowed me to slow down, held me accountable to care for them while I struggled caring for myself, and provided me with stimulation to keep learning and growing my collection. I share my experience in hopes of helping others find an outlet to improve their mental wellness. Here are some lessons I’ve learned through the care of plants:

Mindfulness

Caring for plants often times means slowing down and being present during the process of assessing their needs. If the soil is bone dry, it may take a few extra minutes to properly water and aerate the soil. During this period, you can utilize coping skills learned in therapy such as grounding yourself in the experience. If you allow yourself to focus on how the soil transforms, what it feels like to touch the soil with your fingers and acknowledge the smell you notice, you are probably less focused on your anxious thoughts. You could also focus on your own breath work as you prune away the dead foliage. Taking a deep breath in as you count to 3
and exhaling as you count to 5 can sooth the physical sensations of anxiety in the body.

Resilience

Like humans, plants are very resilient and can be forgiving if proper adjustments to their environment are made. I never give up on dying plants because I’ve learned the art of propagation. This means that you can create a new plant by cutting a node off the mother plant and placing it in water to root over time. Similarly, we can make changes to improve the quality of our lives. This could mean improving our sleep hygiene, spending more time with our supports, and adding more movement to our day. Sometimes plants cannot simply be propagated because all the foliage is damaged or dead. But odds are the root system beneath the surface is still viable and can produce new growth. I’ve learned that a clear plastic cup placed over the soil can create a greenhouse effect to help the plant grow back. Similarly, we sometimes have to make more drastic decisions to ensure survival and growth. This could mean ending an unhealthy relationship, changing jobs, or starting a new medication to manage mental health symptoms.

Consistency

When we plant seeds or start a new habit, we don’t see results right away. Which means that we have to have faith in the importance of routine and consistency to see results. Educating yourself on how to care for each plant, when to water it, recognizing the type of light it needs, how often to fertilize it and how much humidity to add, increases the chances of new growth. The satisfaction of seeing a plant sprouting new foliage often increases serotonin levels and creates a positive reinforcement cycle. But being consistent with a new routine can be challenging especially if you are struggling with a mental health illness. It helps to monitor progress by journaling, attending weekly therapy, and reflecting on how the changes you’ve been making are impacting your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. Holding yourself accountable with a tracking system, the support of trusted friends or family, and adding one new habit at a time can be beneficial.

Compassion

Being compassionate is key when caring for plants and yourself. I’ve killed many plants over the years and learned a lot of lessons along the way. I’ve accepted that each plant goes through its own lifespan. No matter what I do to encourage it to thrive year round, it will eventually hibernate for a season or possibly die completely. Sometimes plants become sick with mites or fungal infections and require treatment I wasn’t anticipating. I’ve had to course correct by isolating, researching, and treating before returning to the original routine.

Similarly, a lot of unexpected things occur each day which can create a sense of helpless. Our society is consistently going through a new crisis, we are all bombarded with a lot of information and no time to process the things happening outside of our control. Being self-compassionate and recognizing that we all have limitation can be a helpful mindset to adopt. Being patient with yourself and recognizing that you are doing the best you can with the resources you have available can help quiet the negative cognition that is associated with depression. We all require time to rest and recharge before we are able to thrive again.

Lastly, let’s look into the research of points I have shared. Lee MS, Lee J, Park BJ, Miyazaki Y (2015) confirm through their research that “active interaction with indoor plants can reduce physiological and psychological stress compared with mental work. This is accomplished through suppression of sympathetic nervous system activity and diastolic blood pressure and promotion of comfortable, soothed, and natural feelings.” Additionally, there is a lot of research confirming positive impacts of mindfulness on mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety, addiction, and chronic pain. Goldin et al. (2016) research shows that use of mindfulness interventions is better for reducing and managing anxiety symptoms compared to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

Overall, plant care can be a powerful experience allowing space to implement mindfulness techniques and creating a calming oasis which can promote mental wellness. It can be incorporated into a weekly routine, increase serotonin levels and help engage in a community with other plant enthusiasts.

Citations

Goldin PR, Morrison A, Jazaieri H, Brozovich F, Heimberg R, Gross JJ. 2016. Group CBT versus MBSR for social anxiety disorder: a randomized controlled trial. J. Consult. Clin. Psychol. 84(5):427–37 Lee MS, Lee J, Park BJ, Miyazaki Y. Interaction with indoor plants may reduce psychological and physiological stress by suppressing autonomic nervous system activity in young adults: a randomized crossover study. J Physiol Anthropol. 2015 Apr 28;34(1):21. doi: 10.1186/s40101-015-0060-8. PMID: 25928639; PMCID: PMC4419447.

 

    

What is therapy? An overview for potential clients

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What is therapy?

An overview for potential clients

by Mei Bresnahan

 

    

What is therapy?

Therapy is a space for clients to receive individual support & guidance from a licensed mental health professional, so they can actively participate in their own healing. The goal of therapy is for clients to gain the insight & abilities necessary to:
– Understand & resolve their problems
– Manage, reduce, and/or eliminate mental illness symptoms
– Reach their mental health related goals
– Obtain a sense of well-being

What are the basic elements of therapy?

 

Support
The therapist actively listens to the client, providing empathy, reflection & validation. The client feels heard & understood, and is able to build a trusting relationship with the therapist.

Impartiality
The therapist tries to remain impartial, avoid giving directives, and refrain from passing judgment on the client. In this way, therapy differs from other dynamics such as friendship. It provides the client with a relatively unbiased perspective, which they can use to form their own opinions and decisions.

Confidentiality
Therapy is a confidential space protected by legal & professional mandates. The client is free to share almost anything they need to in order to heal, knowing the therapist will not share this information except under certain circumstances. If such an exception applies (ex: imminent danger to self/others), the therapist would inform the client that confidentiality must be breached for legal & ethical reasons.

Active Engagement & Collaboration
Therapy is a dynamic process that involves engagement & collaboration between therapist and client. During session, the therapist offers insight, support and skills training rooted in evidence-based practices (ex: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and tailored to the client’s specific needs. For therapy to work, the client must also be an active participant. During session, the client provides topics of concern, participates in discussion, and gives feedback as needed. Outside of session, the client reflects on lessons learned, practices new skills, and completes any ‘homework’ if assigned. If you are a new client and/or unsure how to participate, let us know and we are happy to help!

What does therapy look like?

 

 

 

 

 

Structure

Therapy sessions are 50 minutes long, and can be held in-person or online depending on therapist availability. During the ‘intake’ (first) session, the therapist asks background questions to gain a broader understanding of the client’s situation. In the second session, therapist and client collaborate to create a treatment plan; this plan has clear goals and objectives to guide the course of therapy. Further sessions are structured based on the therapist’s style and client’s preferences.

Frequency & Progress
– Beginning: Initially, therapy is usually scheduled on a weekly or every-other-week basis. During the first few sessions, therapist and client get to know each other and build a working relationship. While the client may not notice immediate change, this rapport building is essential to successful treatment.

– Ongoing: As therapy continues, the client starts making progress. It is important to note that progress is nonlinear (goes up & down), because healing is complicated and naturally fluctuates over time. Once progress is maintained, the client needs less support and sessions are scheduled less frequently (ex:
once a month).

– Termination: Eventually, the client progresses to the point of no longer needing support, and treatment is terminated. This ‘graduation’ is the final goal of therapy: for the client to achieve and maintain their well-being independently. The duration of treatment (i.e., time until termination) depends on the individual client and their circumstances (ex: commitment to change, support system, etc.). Some clients may graduate within 3 or 4 months; others may require one or more years.

Cost
Session cost will depend on how the client pays (direct/private pay vs insurance company). For the client using insurance, fees will vary based on their individual policy. For further details, please review our registration paperwork and (if using insurance) contact your provider.

4 Things your therapist wants you to know

1. In order for therapy to work, you must attend & participate
For therapy to be successful, the client must attend sessions regularly and actively participate in treatment (ex: engage in discussion, practice skills outside of session). If you have difficulty attending or participating, let your therapist know and they will do their best to support you (ex: brainstorm ideas). Please note that therapists can only provide support during sessions. If you do not schedule or show up to therapy, your therapist cannot beg or force you to attend.

2. Therapy is not a magic cure-all
If problems were a mountain, the therapist would not carry the client up or tell them exactly how to climb. The therapist would help the client find hand & footholds, and the client would test these out to scale the mountain. In this way, therapy itself will not resolve your problems for you. Instead, your therapist will help you learn coping skills and identify solutions, and you are the one who will change your life!

 

 

 

3. Therapy is not always fast or easy, but it is worth it!
Progress in therapy can start slow and/or fluctuate over time, because healing is a complicated process. If you do not immediately see improvement, do not lose hope! Imagine blowing up a balloon: it may grow slowly, stall, or sometimes even shrink if you lose your grip. But in the long-term, you will inflate the balloon to a bigger size than it was before. Similarly, therapeutic progress can fluctuate over time; these ‘expansions’ and contractions’ are normal parts of healing & growth. Therapy is not always comfortable or easy—sometimes painful emotions or memories may arise in or after session. This is normal and an often-necessary part of healing, like changing a bandage. That being said, too much pain may impede healing, so let your therapist know if you ever feel overwhelmed. Overall, clients who participate in therapy and communicate their concerns, find therapy to be extremely helpful in giving them insight, new skills & tools to use, and receiving support they may not get elsewhere.

4. Give us feedback!
If you are confused, unsure or having any difficulties with treatment, please communicate this to your therapist. Tell us what you like and don’t like, what’s working and what is not. We are open to feedback and want to support you the best we can! And we can only help if we know what is going on.